Communication is the key to any healthy relationship, and the process of picking out the perfect engagement ring is no different. You’re preparing to spend the rest of your life together, after all. It’s only right that the symbol of your partnership be one you’ve decided on together.
Before you jump in your car and head to the nearest jeweler, you should first have a conversation and consider the areas of overlap in your individual visions for the ring.
But where to begin?
There’s so much to consider and with the weight of all those details, it’s understandable if you’ve been avoiding the conversation. Luckily, Valentine’s Day affords you a great opportunity to start the discussion, and a perfectly romantic setting for getting the process underway.
Here are a few things you’ll want to do as you set out on your ring-buying journey.
Get to know the different engagement ring styles.
Do you know what a halo setting is? How about an open band? Do you know the difference between channel-set and micro-pave diamonds? Knowing the vocabulary to these common details will be helpful when discussing your options.
Decide which type of gemstone or diamond you want.
Decide on the shape.
Round! Princess! Heart! Pear! There are a number of different diamond shapes or ‘cuts’ out there and knowing what shape you want will make it much easier to find the gem of your dreams.
You should also know that certain shapes look better on different types of hands. Read about how different diamond shapes look on different hand sizes to see what might complement your hands the most.
But remember: the shape of your gem is all about your personal preference.
Talk about your budget.
It isn’t the sexiest way to approach an engagement, but it is healthy and helps both you and your partner set expectations. There are lots of options out there, and without a budget it’s easy to grow eyes larger than your wallet.
For further guidance, read our article on on how much you should spend on an engagement ring.
Figure out your ring size.
Be sure to measure both at the beginning of the day and at the end, as your fingers are prone to change size slightly throughout the day. See our ring sizing guide for more.
See if it fits before you commit.
While you can and should do most of your research online before you go into a store, you’ll never know how the ring really feels and looks until you actually see it in person.
Ritani’s free in-store preview helps you to do just that by allowing you to order online, and then visit a partner retailer to see your hand-crafted ring in person. If you love it, take it home that day; if it’s not quite right, you can walk away with no obligation to buy.
Don’t forget the important stuff.
No matter where you end up buying your ring, make sure the retailer offers:
Remember, as long as you’re doing it together, there’s no wrong way to do this. Consider these ideas as a launch pad for your own personal approach.
The important thing is you’ve found each other. Everything else is details. Happy Valentine’s Day.